Au Revoir, Paris: The Dream We’re Taking Home

As I sit here waiting for our flight to EWR, I’m struck by how Paris has a way of changing your rhythm. It happened the first time I came. We arrived as fast-paced New Jerseyans and left as people who appreciate a slow, rainy morning and a 13-minute stroll to see world-class art. When the automated passport system went down, we were placed in orderly lines and people appeared from everywhere to keep the lines moving. Still with smiles, efficiency and “ merci beaucoup”.

It is said you leave a piece of yourself in Paris, but I think it’s the other way around—you take a piece of Paris with you. I’m taking back the inspiration that helped me finally finish my writing, the echoes of Marvin Gaye playing in a neighborhood bistro, the beautiful jazz in the hotel lobby and the reminder that a simple smile and a “merci” can bridge any language gap. I am glad I decided on taxis/ Uber. I loved being whisked around the Paris scenery

We may have walked 68,877 steps, but the real journey was in the quiet moments: the view of the Eiffel Tower from the banks of the Seine, the view of Paris from the Eiffel Tower and the kindness of strangers who made us feel right at home. I agree with the Parisians- no building taller than the Eiffel tower and none within the city limits of Paris which can be seen in panoramic view from the tower.

I think we’ll always have Paris. But for now, it’s time to head back across the Atlantic, refreshed, productive, and perhaps just a little bit more romantic, grateful and hopeful than when we arrived.

Au revoir, Paris. It was a dream a dream come true and you didn’t disappoint.

Day 5: A Rainy, Graceful Farewell

Day 5 got off to a slow start. We slept in way past our usual wake-up time, which was likely much-needed. It rained almost all day, so we took our time getting dressed for lunch. Since it was convenient, we headed back to Café Fleurus for another meal.

From there, we took a 13-minute stroll to the Musée d’Art Moderne. We explored the permanent collection (which is free!) housed in a massive building on the banks of the Seine. It offered a perfect view of the Eiffel Tower and was truly a beautiful exhibition.

Productivity & Reflection

Back at the hotel, I finally had the chance to complete two blog posts I’ve been working on for weeks: one on Leadership and another on the 21-Day Meditation on Success. It felt great to cross those off the list in such an inspiring city.

The Final Dinner

We had our last Parisian dinner at L’Aventure, located next to the newly renovated hotel. The service and meal were perfect—a flawless way to end the trip. One thing I’ll never forget is the soundtracks in these restaurants; hearing everything from Marvin Gaye to Dionne Warwick made the city feel like a welcoming neighborhood.

Films set in Paris and Memories

I’m already missing Paris. It makes me think of all the classic films set here. One of my favorites is Paris Blues, starring Sidney Poitier, Paul Newman, Joanne Woodward, and Diahann Carroll. It’s a great romantic story about two jazz musicians who fall for tourists; in the end, the men stay in Paris while the women head home. The music is absolutely amazing.because it is a legendary Duke Ellington score.

Of course, my favorite is Casablanca. While the main story is set in Morocco, the heart of the film is the beautiful flashbacks to Paris before the war. It’s where we get my favorite line: “We’ll always have Paris.” It is the perfect reminder that even when you leave, those memories stay with you.

Final Thoughts

Roy and I don’t speak any French, but everyone was so kind. We smiled and said “Thank you” everywhere we went. People genuinely seemed to love hearing that we were from New Jersey. We even talked a little politics, but it was all in good spirits. I’m so grateful for the kindness we encountered.

By the Numbers

I refuse to feel guilty about the food! The meals were light, and our feet definitely did the work. Over the course of the trip, we walked:

• Total Steps: 68,877

• Total Distance: ~31 miles

Tomorrow we head back to EWR. So far, the flight is on time. Paris, it’s been a dream.

The Leader as Healer: Why Compassion is Our Best Prescription

In this complex, fast-paced world of modern healthcare, I find it easy to get lost in metrics and throughput. But lately, I’ve been reflecting on Dr. Joshua Hartzell’s “A Prescription for Caring in Healthcare Leadership,” and it reinforces a core belief we share: Leadership is about empowerment, not control. Performance isn’t just about individual effort; it’s about the strength of the system supporting that effort. When we prioritize the health of our team, we allow our healers to truly heal.

Why We Need a New Approach

The need for this shift is backed by more than just my intuition. The 2025 Medscape Employed Physicians Report highlights a growing crisis: while many clinicians choose employment for stability, many struggle with a lack of autonomy and the crushing weight of administrative “noise” or “ burden”. The data shows that “limited influence on workplace decisions” is a top driver of burnout. To me, this is clear evidence that the traditional “Command and Control” model is no longer sustainable. We need a new prescription—one centered on the interprofessional team.

Empowering the Interprofessional Team

To solve the challenges of access and burnout, we must look at the physician as the leader of a high-functioning, interprofessional team. This means expanding roles and ensuring every team member—from our clinical support staff to our advanced practice clinicians—has the tools they need to succeed.

When a physician is supported by a robust, fully-resourced team, the entire practice breathes easier. This collaborative approach allows us to better address health-related social needs—those factors outside the practice walls that so often impact health outcomes and limit a patient’s access to care. By working together to identify these needs and providing timely referrals, we ensure our care is as holistic as it is clinical.

Technology as Our Partner in Care

A major part of the “prescription” is using technology to restore the human connection. Medscape data reveals that clinicians spend an exhausting amount of time on documentation. By integrating Ambient Voice technology and structured templates, we can free ourselves from the keyboard and be fully present with our patients.

We can go further by using AI-driven messaging tools to intelligently filter communications. This closes care gaps automatically and ensures only high-priority clinical questions reach the physician’s desk. This, combined with clinical support tools for evidence-based care, ensures we provide the highest quality outcomes without the mental fatigue of administrative “clutter.”

The Heart of the Team: Being Heard and Valued

Ultimately, the most successful healthcare organizations are built on a foundational truth: caring leadership is not a weakness; it is an act of empowerment. When we trade rigid oversight for radical listening and curiosity, we stop seeing staffing gaps as “performance issues” and begin seeing them as vital opportunities to strengthen our human bonds. By hearing our clinicians when they tell us the work is endless, we move beyond mere management toward true advocacy.

We must commit to an integrated model where compassionate leadership, smart technology, and team-based support work in harmony. Together, we don’t just “manage” a service—we ignite a culture where clinicians thrive, and because they thrive, our patients receive the world-class care they deserve.

“The leadership qualities of physician supervisors have a direct impact on the personal well-being of the physicians they lead.” — Dr. Tait Shanafelt

Beyond the Label: A Path to Freedom

For years, my identity was forged in the fast-paced environment of family medicine. I was trained be able to discern labels—diagnosing, categorizing, and coding. In the clinical practice a label is a tool; it provides a roadmap for treatment. But as I transitioned into roles as a leader and an educator, I began to see the shadow side of that training. I realized that labeling, while medically necessary, can be spiritually and professionally restrictive. It often led me to “wrong” conclusions because labels are, by their very nature, boxes that ignore the unbounded potential of the person—or the situation—standing before me.


Looking to reconnect with what success actually meant in this new season of leadership, I returned to a foundational practice: Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey’s 21-Day Meditation: Manifesting True Success. To anchor these modern lessons, I utilized Gemini to identify the scriptures that reflected each day’s centering thought. What I experienced was a total realignment of my internal order.


The Conspiracy of Time
I spent a long time viewing success as a distant peak I had to scale. Through this journey, I came to understand that success was actually an expansion from within. I stopped “wronging” my past detours and started seeing them as strategic placements. I began to perceive my past, present, and future not as separate silos, but as one harmonious conspiracy that had prepared me for my current roles in leadership and education.
I found peace in Romans 8:28: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” I realized that even the perceived “clinical errors” of my past were conspiring for my current expansion.


Removing the Restrictive Labels
As an educator, I always saw how labels like “struggling student” or “difficult colleague” act as fences. During these 21 days, I practiced being in the world, but not of it. I learned that the enlightened and compassionate leader is one who recognizes “pure existence” beneath the title. When I stripped away the labels, I found myself in a “spacious place” where I was no longer limited by who I was yesterday or the boxes others tried to put me in.
This truth echoed in Colossians 3:11, which reminds us that in the light of the Spirit, all human labels of status and history vanish. By letting go of these restrictive definitions, the mandate of Isaiah 54:2 to “Enlarge the place of your tent,” helped me envision a leadership style that was spacious enough for everyone’s potential to unfold.


Success as Liberation
I once thought success was about achieving more control; I learned that it is actually about achieving more freedom. Every path to my success became a path to my freedom. When I stopped trying to force outcomes through the “fussy mind” of a perfectionist, I moved into the “spacious place” described in Psalm 118:5. I began to rejoice in my uniqueness and stood back to watch the Larger Plan work through my leadership.
I stopped chasing external validation and started trusting that the Lord would fulfill His purpose for me (Psalm 138:8). I moved from being a “doctor” trying to fix the world to a leader who acts as a magnet for the immeasurable good that rushes toward me from every direction.


My Daily Reflection
I integrated the wisdom of those twenty-one days into a single invocation. It became my anchor for a new vision of my life in leadership and education:

“I stepped beyond the limitations I once thought were permanent. I realized I am pure existence operating in a world of form. I choose to live the full richness of my life by stripping away the labels that used to define me. I see clearly that my past, my present, and my future have always been one harmonious conspiracy. For me, every path to success is a path to freedom. I am a magnet for the immeasurable good that rushes toward me from every direction. I expanded. I evolved. I am.”

Day 2: Brunch, Bling, and the Eiffel Tower Sparkle

Just a little disclaimer for my regular readers: I used to spend hours and hours editing every single blog post. But since I took that course on how to use AI for editing, I’m putting those skills to work! It’s such a game-changer to be able to share these memories with you while I’m actually living them.

Day 2 officially began in “vacation mode”—we didn’t even get out of bed until 11:00 AM Paris time! I guess the travel drama and that museum walk finally caught up with us, but honestly, we needed the rest. We started the day off with a fantastic brunch at Café Belloy before spending the afternoon strolling through the shops on the Champs-Élysées.

I realized I forgot to mention a highlight from Day 1: I finally added the Eiffel Tower Pandora charm to my bracelet! It’s the perfect little sparkler to remember this trip by.

A Magic Moment at 6:00 PM

By 4:30 PM, we made our way to our Eiffel Tower tour. Even though it was my second time there, it felt completely new seeing it with Leroy. But the real highlight happened on the way back to the hotel.

We were walking through the Palais de Tokyo and happened to look back at exactly 6:00 PM. Right on cue, the Eiffel Tower started to sparkle! It only lasts for five minutes, and watching everyone on the steps taking pictures while the lights danced… it was absolutely amazing. It’s one of those “only in Paris” moments that you just have to see to believe.

Our Parisian Home Base

We finished the evening with a late dinner at Le Copernic enjoying a slow stroll through the neighborhoods. There is nothing like walking through Paris at night!

We are staying at the Le Belgrand Hotel Paris Champs Elysees (Tapestry Collection by Hilton). It is such a cozy spot if you’re looking for a place to stay, the location is a 10-minute walk from the Arc de Triomphe, near the Golden Triangle and the Champs-Élysées.

Day 2 was a dream. Now, time to see what Day 3 has in store for us!

Croque Madame

Day 4: Sun, History, and the Rebirth of Notre Dame

Unlike yesterday, Day 4 began with a beautiful, sunny Parisian morning. It was the perfect backdrop for our guided tour of Notre Dame Cathedral.

Standing there and learning the history of the cathedral and the city was so enlightening. I took a World History class in college and did very well, mostly because my high school French teacher was so passionate about teaching us the history of France. I have to admit, I’d forgotten quite a few facts over the years, but I was amazed at how much I actually remembered!

It’s truly incredible to see Notre Dame again. It’s hard to believe the church was once almost destroyed, only to be saved by Victor Hugo and his Hunchback of Notre Dame. Seeing it now, after the fire, it feels like it’s rising from the ashes once again. I even learned the history of the rooster that sits on the spire—the original was found in the rubble, and the new one perfectly represents that spirit of rebirth.

From the Pantheon to Sweet Treats

From there, we made our way up to the Pantheon, yet another stunning monument to rebirth. Originally built as a church, it’s now a secular mausoleum containing the remains of distinguished French citizens like Voltaire, Rousseau, and Victor Hugo himself. The architecture is just massive and awe-inspiring.

After all that history, I couldn’t let the day end without a treat! I finally got a crêpe from Crème de la Crêpe, while Roy opted for a blueberry muffin. The coffee was absolutely tremendous—exactly what we needed to keep us going.

Sun, Shopping, and the “Winter Sales”

After heading back toward our home base, we decided to soak up more of the sunshine with some shopping along the Champs-Élysées.

A huge thank you to Jo-Ann, who sent me a list of things to do in Paris! Thanks to her, I learned that today is the day before the last day of the Winter Sales (les soldes d’hiver). These sales are government-regulated and only happen twice a year, so the deals are incredible. I managed to pick up a beautiful scarf for John.

We also ducked into a French pharmacy, which was like a massive marketplace of health and beauty—nothing like any pharmacy we have in the United States! It was so impressive that it even included a Ladurée counter; of course, we couldn’t resist buying a few macarons right then and there. We hit Sephora too, where I grabbed a few products made in England and France.

We ended our day at Le Corner for dinner. It’s a chic, modern spot with a great terrace vibe that captures the elegant, authentic ambiance of the 16th arrondissement perfectly. It was the perfect way to wrap up such a busy, sun-filled day, enjoying a meal together as we waited for the evening to wind down.

Tomorrow we have a few more surprises in store. Stay tuned!

Day 3: Art, Leadership, and the Art of the Nap

Day 3 started exactly how every Parisian morning should: a good breakfast and a taxi ride straight to the Louvre.

Now, if you know us, you know we like to do things a little differently. We decided to skip the madness of the Mona Lisa crowds . Instead, we spent our morning getting lost among the stunning French sculptures, and I finally made it over to the Apartment of Napoleon III. If you haven’t seen it, the opulence is just next-level—gold, velvet, and chandeliers for days!

After about three hours of wandering the halls, we realized the jet lag and those long weeks of call were still winning. We decided to listen to our bodies and took an Uber back to the hotel.

Finding Quiet Moments

While Roy leaned into a serious “vacation nap,” I took advantage of the downtime. It was so refreshing to have a moment of peace to dive into my current book A Prescription for Caring in Healthcare Leadership by Joshua D Hartselle MD Colonel (Retired) US Army. I love books by military leaders. One of my other Favorites is Leading from the Front: No Excuse Leadership Tactics for Women. I also read that on a vacation.

I also managed to finish up my Day 2 post and even started sketching out a new post specifically on leadership. It’s funny how being away from the daily grind of meetings gives your brain the space to actually think deeply about the work we do.

Neighborhood Vibes at Café Fleurus

We ended the day at Café Fleurus, another lovely neighborhood restaurant just a short walk from the hotel. Located in the heart of the 16th arrondissement and just steps from the Golden Triangle, it perfectly combines elegance and authenticity.

I was not aware of these facts when I booked the hotel but I am so glad we chose to stay in this area. I was not aware that the 16th is one of the most prestigious districts in Paris—home to grand architecture, embassies, and the Trocadéro. It is such a relief to be away from the intense hustle and bustle of the tourist-heavy hotels around the Louvre. It feels much more peaceful here—truly a lovely neighborhood vibe.

With Day 3 in the books, we’re resting up for a big day tomorrow. We’re tackling Notre Dame and I have a few surprises up my sleeve!

Au revoir for now!

Never Too Late for Paris: A Whirlwind Start with My Love


I’m finally here! If you’ve been following along, you know I was just here in October for a girls’ trip, but I’ve been dreaming of coming back with the love of my life. I honestly cannot believe that this is Leroy and my first time in Paris together!
After what feels like a lifetime of extra weeks on call, working on curriculum, presenting at national meetings, and endless papers, this trip was the light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve planned this in my head a thousand times, and now we are actually living it. It’s a beautiful reminder: it is never too late to see Paris together.


The “Delta Drama” (Or: How I Almost Stayed in New Jersey)
It wouldn’t be a trip of mine without a little chaos, right? Hard to believe I almost didn’t get here at all.
Last Saturday, I realized I hadn’t been checking my Delta app closely enough. My Friday 5:05 PM flight had been moved to Thursday at 5:05 PM! I spent Monday frantically rearranging my schedule so I could work from home Thursday morning.
I thought I was in the clear until 5:00 AM Thursday. I got up for my workout, checked the app, and—you guessed it—canceled. After a frantic call to Delta, I found out Air France rescheduled the flight to 4:30 PM. Then came the real kicker: the new ticket was leaving from JFK, not Newark!
I had to scramble to tell Roy to get dressed and ready, notify the car service, and pray to the traffic gods. Luckily, our driver was someone I had driven with before, and he got us from Summit to JFK in record time.


Bonjour, Paris!
Once we hit the airport, everything smoothed out. We landed at 6:00 AM Friday morning and headed straight to our hotel. We’re staying at a gorgeous boutique hotel tucked away near the Champs-Élysées and the Arc de Triomphe.
There was no early check-in (the traveler’s struggle!), but the hotel gave us breakfast and we walked the city streets until the room was ready. Now, I might have been a little over-ambitious—forgetting how tired I’d be, I booked a tour of the Musée d’Orsay. We walked there, but by the end, we were wiped!
We grabbed an Uber back, took a much-needed nap, and ended the night perfectly at a spot called Lulu’s.

Pro Tip: If you want a place that feels like home, go to Lulu’s. It was born from a desire to serve 100% homemade, generous food in a warm, lively setting. It’s a modern take on the traditional brasserie—no fuss, no “gastronomic dictates,” just heart and a smile. They truly welcome you like family.

Day 1 is officially in the books, and after that meal and all that travel drama, we are sleeping well tonight. Stay tuned for more!
Day 2 plans have been made

Reflections on 2025: A Year of Resilience, Connection, and New Horizons

As the clock strikes midnight and we usher in 2026, I find myself exhaling a long-held breath. If I’m being honest, I have been waiting for this year to end. 2025 was a marathon—a year that felt endless, marked by the highest of highs and some deeply felt disappointments.
But if there is one lesson I am taking from the last twelve months, it is this: we must be brave, and we must be bold.
The Professional Rollercoaster
The year began with so much anticipation regarding the HHS ARPA-H grant, a milestone we thought would define our professional trajectory. By March, we received the news: while we were selected, the funding had been dramatically cut. We passed on the grant.
By the time the STFM conference arrived in May, it became clear I wasn’t alone. My conversations there were filled with stories from colleagues who had also lost their grants. It was a sobering season for our field, yet it reminded me that in times of scarcity, we must be even bolder in our advocacy and braver in our pursuit of new paths.
Speaking Truth to Injustice
Looking toward 2026, I have to be honest: this new year feels formidable. We are facing a situation in which budget cuts, as well as the failure to renew vital aspects of the Affordable Care Act, will have a tremendous impact on many of our neighbors here in New Jersey.
For the many citizens who rely on the ACA to stay insured, these changes are not just policy shifts—they are life-altering threats to their health and security. In the face of this, I’ve decided that I cannot be silent. I have chosen to speak truth to injustice. Our expertise and our voices are needed now more than ever to protect the most vulnerable among us.
Celebration, Community, and Family
Even amidst the heavy news, 2025 reminded me why we fight: for the people and the communities we love.

  • The New Jersey Medical Association celebrated its annual Scholarship Gala, and we were fortunate that the NK-MA President Elect, Dr. Roger Mitchell, a NJ native and graduate of NJ Medical School in Newark, now Rutgers Health Science. He is the president of Howard Hospital in Washington, D.C. We were also present as he was inaugurated as the 126th NMA President at the national conference in Chicago. It was a year of celebrating excellence in medicine.
  • We also went to Salt Lake City, Utah, for the Society for Teachers of Family Medicine’s annual meeting. I was honored to be recognized for my work as the founding member of the Leadership through Scholarship Fellowship. I stepped down and passed the baton to my colleagues.
  • The Giddens Family Reunion: The highlight of my summer was Birmingham. Getting the family together was a fantastic experience; we cherished every moment of connection and heritage.
  • Giving Back: The Family Promise of Union County fundraiser in September was a beautiful reminder of the power of local organizations to change lives.
  • Adventure: October brought the “City of Lights,” Paris, with my girlfriends—a necessary spark of joy.
  • LeRoy’s Birthday: We capped off the year in Ocean City, celebrating LeRoy’s birthday on December 1st with his daughter. It was a peaceful, beautiful time before the holiday rush.
    Entering 2026 with Purpose
    2025 was full of “almosts” and “finallys.” It was a year of navigating cuts while celebrating milestones. While I am happy to turn the page, I am not just looking for “better” times; I am looking for “braver” times.
    Let us not be deterred by the disappointments of the past or the weight of the future. Instead, let’s step into this New Year with the courage to take risks and the strength to stand tall for what is right.
    Happy New Year. Let’s be brave, let’s be bold, and let’s make 2026 a year of action.
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